"Don't teach girls what to wear, teach boys not to rape", was a post that everyone liked and shared on facebook. We hated the men who raped and killed "Damini", we hate all men who think women are objects of lust. We hate men who don't respect women as equals.
But wait, what does the facebook post imply to? Do by any chance anyone out there think that the parents of the culprits coaxed them to rape? Will any sane person believe that a parent will teach a kid to rape? Where does the question of teach not to rape come from? I have a son and I really want to teach him how not to rape....so what do I do? As a parent all that I can do is teach him lessons in morality, behaviour and etiquette. I can teach him how to respect human being, why only women, he should respect men too! My job ends there, I cannot shadow him everywhere to give him moral lessons 24/7. He has to know right from wrong, he has to carve his own character. I can only support him in that.
So in doing that, am I teaching him how not to rape? I am not clear about this. I kept on thinking for all these months after the Delhi rape case - who is to be blamed? Of course the MEN who were involved in it but why are their parents being targeted? Just because they have a son or because it is easier to put on blame when the person is from the weaker section?
Everyday I see some posts which say how a SON should be brought up. My question is, who has seen how those men were brought up? Probably their parents never had the time, money or energy left to give them some moral lessons. I am not supporting their act, that was henious and they should be severly punished. What I want to say is what makes people blame the parents? I really want to know why parents of a boy child are made to feel like culprits whenever such incidents happen, whereas the parents of a girlchild are looked upon as victims.
I would say we all have kids and we all are trying our best to give them the best of everything, so such posts surely hurt. So now, I need to go and ensure I teach my son how not to rape.......... but how...... any idea? ......huffffff.......
But wait, what does the facebook post imply to? Do by any chance anyone out there think that the parents of the culprits coaxed them to rape? Will any sane person believe that a parent will teach a kid to rape? Where does the question of teach not to rape come from? I have a son and I really want to teach him how not to rape....so what do I do? As a parent all that I can do is teach him lessons in morality, behaviour and etiquette. I can teach him how to respect human being, why only women, he should respect men too! My job ends there, I cannot shadow him everywhere to give him moral lessons 24/7. He has to know right from wrong, he has to carve his own character. I can only support him in that.
So in doing that, am I teaching him how not to rape? I am not clear about this. I kept on thinking for all these months after the Delhi rape case - who is to be blamed? Of course the MEN who were involved in it but why are their parents being targeted? Just because they have a son or because it is easier to put on blame when the person is from the weaker section?
Everyday I see some posts which say how a SON should be brought up. My question is, who has seen how those men were brought up? Probably their parents never had the time, money or energy left to give them some moral lessons. I am not supporting their act, that was henious and they should be severly punished. What I want to say is what makes people blame the parents? I really want to know why parents of a boy child are made to feel like culprits whenever such incidents happen, whereas the parents of a girlchild are looked upon as victims.
I would say we all have kids and we all are trying our best to give them the best of everything, so such posts surely hurt. So now, I need to go and ensure I teach my son how not to rape.......... but how...... any idea? ......huffffff.......
